A wife, whose husband entered the Narconon Arrowhead program, discusses the helplessness she felt when she could not aid her husband in overcoming his drug addiction. This is common problem that occurs with substance abuse. Loving and caring family members are without real solutions on how they can stop the individual from using drugs. This review discusses the things that did and didn’t work when it came to resolving a drug problem. Here is the full story:
When my husband was using drugs the thing that I was most upset about was that I felt like a complete failure when it came to helping him overcome his problems and obstacles. I was not even the one using yet I felt the least in control when dealing with this problem.
The other thing that was most upsetting was dealing with past lies. The first time he was arrested for possession of a controlled substance I actually questioned if it was his. When I decided that is was he got very angry with me for not ‘backing him up.’ And then, of course, there was the random drug test at work that he failed. He didn’t come home until 6:00 a.m. the next morning and told me that he could not face me because he got fired. This was a great job with great benefits and he loved it. I was upset that he was gone all night. He was then mad at me again for not believing that the test was wrong. So I then decide to believe him and he calls the company and gets his job back only to get mad and quit a few months later.
My Wake Up Call
The second call from jail on January 25th was my wake up call. I went from not taking his calls from jail and wanting to leave him there to crying uncontrollably, sick to my stomach, wanting him to get out and wanting to try to find help for him somehow.
He said that he wanted to get help and quit but couldn’t. I can see the cycles so clearly. I was desperate. I felt helpless like I had nowhere to turn. Thank goodness that an online referral referred me to Narconon Arrowhead. I talked to the facility immediately and brought him from jail to the program. I very much wanted to believe that he was doing the program for himself and his family and not because of his legal situation. After a few weeks I noticed a great change in him. He seemed more focused on the future and not on the past. We had time to both heal. Today my son is learning to say no to drugs while his father is getting off them.
Now when I talk to my husband it is so good. I know that once he gets done with the program he will be able to handle problems and get a job and be stable for the first time in our lives. Thank you Narconon Arrowhead.
L.N. – Wife of a former drug addict.